Grief, Sadness & the Quiet Support of Scent

There are seasons of life that arrive uninvited. Quietly at first. Then all at once. 

Grief doesn’t always look like what we expect. Sometimes it’s loud and aching. Sometimes it’s quiet and invisible woven into the smallest parts of our day. 

Essential Oils That Support Sadness & Grief

We’re not here to fix anything. Grief doesn’t need fixing. It needs space. And kindness. But there are Essential Oils that can gently hold you  and comfort you while you move through it:

1. Bergamot , The oil of soft uplift. Lightly citrusy with a tender warmth, bergamot is known to ease low moods and bring a hint of brightness. It doesn’t rush you into joy, it just opens the curtains a little.

2. Frankincense, Deeply grounding. Frankincense has long been used in rituals of mourning and healing. It brings the breath down to the tummy, offering calm to the nervous system and a sense of spiritual steadiness.

3. Rose Otto, The oil of the heart. Soft, floral, and precious. Rose can hold sorrow in its petals. It doesn’t run from pain—it sits beside it.

4. Vetiver, Earthy, rich, and slow. Vetiver pulls us back into our bodies when the world feels unsteady. It’s a root oil, and that’s exactly what it helps us do, feel rooted, even when nothing makes sense.

5. Lavender, Safe and familiar. Lavender offers the nervous system  comfort. In the long, restless nights that grief can bring, it reminds us that rest is still a kindness we’re allowed to accept.

Grief is disorienting. It’s easy to forget to eat, to rest, to even breathe deeply. Creating small rituals, ones that don’t demand anything of you, can be a quiet way to reintroduce care into your days.

Here are a few we love:

• Evening bath or foot soak with Lavender in an Oil or Salt blend. Let the water hold you for a while.

• A diffuser beside your bed with bergamot, helping the mind slow and the body soften.

• A soft inhale from a blend kept in your pocket, something to return to when tears rise without warning. 

• Lighting a candle in honour of who or what you’re missing. Naming the loss, gently. Giving it room to be seen.

There’s no right way to grieve. No timeline. No tidy ending. But there is support. In the people who love you. In the stillness of nature. In the small daily comforts that feel just within reach.

Grief isn’t something to get over. It’s something we learn to carry. Slowly. Softly. In our own time.

If you’re moving through loss right now, here are a few small ways to support yourself:

Let it be messy. There’s no “right” way to grieve. Anger, numbness, tears, laughter, they’re all part of it.

Create quiet rituals. Light a candle each morning. Diffuse a grounding oil like frankincense. Take a slow walk. Let simple things become anchors.

Ask for softness. From friends, from family, from yourself. You don’t have to be “strong” all the time. Asking for professional help and counselling can help too. 

This is hard, and you’re not alone. Let comfort meet you where you are.

And sometimes, in a scent that catches you just when you need it. If you need some help with a supportive Chapter Blend or Essential Oil to support you. Please dont hesitate to get in touch with our team we're here to help.